I know every woman wants
a man who will always be proud of them. A man who would genuinely care and pay
attention whenever you have a bad day. Who would accompany you somewhere else
for a little walk, chat, laugh and become silly together; or stay with you even
during your boring bits. Who wouldn't say "no" to your simple
requests. Who would give you regular reminders about the foods you eat and to
drink plenty of water. Who would give you tiny little things to say he
misses you or he was thinking of you. Who would tell you that he needs you
in his life and would love to see you walk down the aisle with your wedding
dress feeling like the most beautiful woman on earth. Cheezy right? These are
probably basic for most people but these could make us feel valued and loved...
But then again,
"hindi laging pasko sa pag-ibig" There will always be shortcomings
that you'll need to live on.
I do believe that every
beautiful relationship also has its downside. There will never be a
perfect relationship and we can never expect perfection, that would be a dead
end. BUT, we can always make an imperfect relationship work. agree!? I
wouldn't believe you if you'd tell me you never had a fight with your
partner even with small things, or sometimes worse comes to worst, you'll
bluntly decide to part ways. It happens, right? ridiculous! and it's always up
to us whether or not we'd choose to stay together. In our case, ehem!
he can't live without my presence eh!haha and likewise of course.hihi. :)
Married life is more
complex, I would say. It's not like teenagers relationship, like you can always
have a childish conversation and huff when you get annoyed with each other.
There will be more important things that you would need to focus on. There are
so many things that you would need to learn about each other, about how you'd
live your life together untroubled. Adjustment will never be easy, even
maturity could be difficult to acquire. When a dispute arise, you shouldn't
allow yourself to be narrow-minded, you're gonna clash and you wouldn't resolve
anything.
Marriage is not like
a fairy tale story, like a princess with her prince who's always there to
save her from trouble. In reality, it's like a long storybook wherein you can't just stop finding ways to maintain the relationship that
you have or save it from breaking down; and it takes not just love
but also hard work and effort from both side. Elders say you wouldn't
really know the person unless you have lived in one roof. Just so you
know, the first few years of our marriage were the most difficult years we've
ever faced. We needed to work on our differences to be able to get our
certain needs met. I honestly love to share our whole love story here but it
would take me years! It's like a roller coaster ride. We are totally opposite
of each other. Even I, don't even know how we survived life together.hehe.
Probably because we cannot afford to lose each other.. and we always try to keep our communication open. That might be our key in maintaining a good relationship. There's only one thing I know for sure, whatever obstacle
blocks our way, love will always find a way. I know in every battle that
we're going to face, there will always be something new to learn about each
other and we will always have our reason to stay together.
